Blaming is not accepting your fault and giving credit of all
wrongs in your life to others. I got C- in semiconductors because that teacher
had something personal against me, I vomited after eating Biryani because
someone has put a bad sight on it, I couldn’t be there at time because of
traffic issues, I got 32/35 while xyz got 33/35 because he cheated more and I
didn’t (cheated) enough ohhh poor me!!, that policeman challaned me because he
is dum* a** and the list goes on….
The length of this list is inversely proportional to
spiritual peace and happiness. Word “I” becomes most important and the
structure of society just falls apart because I have the right to be happy,
I have the right to be rich, I have the right to have everything I want!
Focusing on that “I” we often forget us. Happiness,
needs and life of other people just start losing their meaning. Here the
selfishness term gets its meaning. Point to be noted (especially in Pakistani
society) is that, this tree of selfishness is planted by those who love us
most(parents) by giving us that unnecessary love and attention while we are too
immature to understand that we are not most important person to the world but
only to them!! Later we learn this lesson from world in a rather hard way.
A hand can’t clap itself, it only can slap(oneself)! 2 hands
are needed to clap. So stop to blame others for all the wrong doings because in
all those claps if one hand is of someone bad then remember the second hand is yours!!
Before putting the blame on others just make sure that you have the 0% role
in that wrongdoing. You will surely realize that this 0% role will never be
possible as you will find yourself involved somewhere surely.
If you stop blaming others, you will see that you will have
the chance of self-improvement, spiritual happiness and peace of heart. This
will also invoke qualities of thankfulness and gratefulness. Gratefulness is
thanking for what you have and stop complaining for the wrongs. It will create
an optimist version of you. Believe me, this optimist version is much better
and realistic than pessimist you! You never counted all those blessings, you
have which if you start to count, you will know that those blessings and good
things being happened to you are much more in time, size and quantity than
those bad things on which you never stop winning about.
Hence for happiness remember this equation:
Blaming is inversely proportional to your character,
spiritual happiness and peace of mind while Gratefulness is directly proportional
to them. Forgiveness is a constant which if multiplied with Gratefulness, do
wonders in one’s life…
Have a Happy Life!
0 comments:
Post a Comment